Friday, 13 November 2015

The Circle - it's been busy!

Wow getting back online and having a telephone has been great as not only can I post but I am also back at work at The Circle and wow did I miss you all!  It has been great to catch up with some of my loyal clients as well as connect with some new ones.

AND, it has been so busy, so I guess you missed me too ;-)

Have you popped on over to The Circle?

Here is an example of my profile:-
Traci C at The Circle
Or of course you can visit and not only check out my profile but also all of the other amazing psychics, mediums and readers, there are a plethora all specialising in different methods, techniques and abilities.

So you may also be wondering how my spiritual progression is also going and well if you read my We've moved! post you will clearly see that my relationship with the universe is obviously well connected, as everything just fell into place and practically before we even knew it needed too!

It's been awhile since I have been to the Spiritualist church what with children, pregnancy, moving and working it has left little time.

Although I did have another experience while happily sat having a celebratory meal at Lupton House.  We were celebrating the success of the 1940's show that Mark is part of the committee for and also helps to organise and run.  Whilst there I have to say I was aware of the presence of a number of spirits.  Varying in ages, ethnicity and also circumstances.  

I always find it strange seeing with my eyes the bright colours, decor etc... of today's era and hearing all the sounds and then "almost" seeing clips of other eras, I say "almost" as I do find when there is a lot of activity it is more feelings and impressions rather than clear clairvoyant sight.  It was interesting and something although quite eerie I would still like to go back and explore!

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Wednesday, 11 November 2015

We've moved!

We've moved, yes physically moved house!  It happened so quick I didn't even have time to forewarn you!

Basically cutting a very long story short we received a call to say that our house was being sold and so we needed to vacate by 31st December.  At the time as you may imagine it was quite emotional.  However, I pulled myself together and trusted in the Universe and two days later we were looking at a property in Brixham.  It was opposite a play park and park so great for the girls and Roo.  Fairly close to the Primary school of which there is a nursery attached so all in all pretty perfect...

Difficulty is on paper we look rubbish, after all we have 4 children, 3 of which are 3 and under and lets face it more and more properties, yes even 3/4 bedrooms are increasingly saying no children and no pets.

Anyway the landlord agreed to meet in order to suss us out and make sure one we could afford the rent and two we were not going to wreck the place.  It was to be an agonising wait for the appointment, agonising because we had already paid a holding fee and we were asked if we could move in by the 31st October....

That basically gave me two weeks to pack up a house of 6 occupants all whilst still looking after the children etc...

Soooooo, I decided to pack anyway, after all if I had waited a week would no way be long enough, two weeks was pushing it as it was!

We met the landlord who was lovely and as the Universe does indeed bring things forth he is one of five and so large families certainly were not putting him off :-) We must have made a good impression as he said it would be a yes from him as long as all the references came back ok :-)

So 5 days until moving day we get the all clear to go ahead!  No I have to point put another HUGE deciding factor in all of this, it was my Dad that agreed to lend us the money to move, without hime there would not have been any possibility and I am so grateful and yet again I do feel it was the universe that put that in place too :-)

There is definitely support and love on the other side influencing and looking after myself and our family.

And now, well we are in Brixham with most boxes unpacked and our internet and phone connected today - whoop whoop.  Which means I am back to working at the Circle and yes I know there are a number of you that have missed me and I really appreciate your patience and loyalty and of course I am back to email readings too.

I absolutely love the feel of where we live now, it feels much more of a family home and I really do feel as though everything is coming together.  Even though Nevaeh starts school next September it was already going to be a battle to get her into any school near to where we were previously due to so many new builds and the nursery here is so much better than where they were, a lot more structured too.

Here is a photo of the first morning in our new home looking out the back of the house :-)

It is so pretty at night too as you see all the lights :-)

Well as usual if you would like to book in a reading at The Circle then do get in touch, if you would like an email reading or a 1-2-1 then let me know and I look forward to updating you a lot more regularly ;-)

Traci x
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Thursday, 3 September 2015

New Collaboration and getting over illness...

Well, it's been awhile! I have been poorly of late so when I have not been attending to my girls needs or working (more on that later) I have been resting and sleeping!  With temperatures which range from feeling as though I am in the tropics to the frozen depths it has not been the most pleasant of experiences and you would think with that much rest and recuperation I would be feeling revitalised and refreshed but to be honest I am exhausted!

However, I am feeling so much better and I have missed writing my posts and sharing with you on facebook.  Also I have just missed you - I love our connections and hearing about your awakenings, transformations and stories and of course how inspiring reading my posts have been for you ;-).

New Collaboration

So, what is this about a collaboration I hear you ask, well I hinted awhile back about going through a rather thorough "testing" period with a company and I am pleased to say I have joined the Team at The Circle.  I started about 3 weeks ago and it has been an amazing experience so far.  I love their attitude of wanting to encourage, enhance and educate not only their readers but their clients too and all in a warm, gentle loving way.

It has been busy, every shift is call after call and I have now started to accept chat readings too. But once again there have been some amazing connections made.

Are you still doing your own readings?

Of course and you can book yours easily on my Angel and Tarot card Reading page.  I am looking to update this page in the near future enabling you to book an available time for phone readings.  Email readings as usual I always endeavour to respond too within 48 hours (during busy periods this may take longer but you will always be informed).

Face-to-face readings are always booked in advance as are party bookings.  The spaces for these are very limited so please get in touch for more information.

Here is a quick pic of me - not looking so glamorous at Alex's 30th Birthday Bash (to be fair I had also partaken in the spa day and so sprucing up and adding makeup after an amazing massage and facial was the last thing on my mind!).  This was Heidi's reading and the third of the evening with more to go :-) (and the little spotted ladybird in the background, well that would be my youngest Alina)
Angel Tarot Reading for a 30th Birthday Party

What about your Spiritual Journey?

I know, it has been awhile since I updated about this too but wow, so much development going on in the psychic, mediumship area.  I am also currently undertaking a..... not exactly what to call it?..... A course? (for want of a better explanation!) to connect deeper, further and to be able to interpret better.  As you may have already from my Open Circle post it really is not how you would expect it to be in terms of connection with the other side.  Or for that matter getting messages.  

Not only do you need to get the messages but you also need to interpret them and there can be the start of the issue.... For instance pictures can be interpreted in so many ways and tuning into the other persons energy in order to interpret their meaning can be tricky and so needs developing (well for me anyway).  Plus it is also a matter of releasing your "ego" completely so that "you" (or in this case "I") do not try to get in the way of the message.  I have said this time and time again and I cannot express it enough it is not actually me per say that is a medium, I know that this may be a hard concept to follow but really it is as if I am a transmitter.  If it was me then that would require me to be the one to be thinking and the messages would be coming from me.  But they are not, the messages are coming from the energy I am connected too on the other side and so I am merely a tool in which to bridge the divide and to be able to help with communication.

So, basically the development is still continuing at a great pace and I am excited for the future.  I will always be developing, learning, a constant student because really I always want to be able to provide you with the best, fulfilling and accurate experience when it comes to readings and spiritual connections with your nearest and dearest.

Until the next post,

Love Life and laughter

Traci x

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Friday, 21 August 2015

It's all about Self-development - Yes it is All About YOU!

How many times have you heard people say "oh no, I don't do that self development stuff" or during the conversation you pick up that your conversationalists believe it is selfish if you are concentrating on you?  I have heard it soooo many times.  However, it is all about self-development, it is all about YOU!
You see simply put, if you are unable to work on you, you are unable to help others fully and effectively... the last words of that sentence are the most important "fully and effectively".

Plus life genuinely gets so much easier the more you learn about you and why you have done/still do certain things, it means you are fighting yourself less and less and accepting, developing more and more.

I wonder how it came to be that we as human beings at some point thought we knew it all.... when we became so arrogant (for want of a better word) to think we could not possibly find out anything else about ourselves and the world around us so that developing our consciousness, our awareness was no longer important.  That notion to me seems ridiculous and yet it has been happening for years and years and years.

The Ripple...

Having said that, I have noticed a ripple, a ripple that has been getting larger and larger year after year for about the last 15 years.  This ripple has been an awareness in more and more people that to be able to create a better outside world they have needed to look and make changes from within.

And here is the ironic things for those that have thought this self-development, self journey is a selfish one, the more you connect from within the larger the connection and understanding you have to the outside world.  Energy for one.  As many avid readers of this blog know I am all for trying to help educate and bring more awareness to the topic of energy.  The more you connect from within the more you understand and develop the senses to be more aware of the subtly nuances of energy, which means you also feel the connections of that energy all around you, in people, animals, nature, objets, well pretty much everything.

The more connected you are to the subtle energies the more you want to protect the environment and everything that is living in because the more you are aware that we are all connected and everything we do has an effect somewhere along the line.  So, it really is all about YOU first.

I have conducted many EFT sessions, readings and had many discussions with friends and the like with regards to relationships. Even with relationships working on yourself can be the greatest gift.  For those struggling with but I want my partner to be... or just do.... you come to the realisation of acceptance rather than change.  With this acceptance also comes the realisation that actually you can never change anyone, you can influence but the action of change has to come from that person because they want to. And again with this gained knowledge all those tensions are released and you discover what it is that you want and how you want your life to be.  It is empowering.

Self-development also helps you to really connect with what it is you really love doing and so helping you to discover the perfect career path to you so that work is no longer the bind or the grind, it is enjoyable, fulfilling and rewarding.

So when is enough, enough?

Well, me personally I think I will always be a student of life... there is so much to learn, so much to discover.  However, there is a big difference in learning and attending.  Ah, the perpetual attendees..... I have met many, maybe you have too or know of one or two.  These are the people that attend course after course, seminar after seminar and yet stay the same.  My dear friends stop... mainly because it is costing you too much and you are attending for the wrong reasons, yes, you may get your energy fix and feel awesome when you are there only to return home to feel... well the way you did before which is why you go to another and another.

Really for you to gain anything a clue is in self-development, it requires YOU to do something, attending is not enough.  You need to take action on the information given.  This is why it is most helpful for the majority to work on one area at a time and fully immerse and complete that before moving on.

This is also why for many courses the information is no longer fully accessible, it is provided lesson by lesson, week after week.  This is to help you to manage the information and have time to act on it before moving on, otherwise too many skip ahead so the information is non effective as it has not really been taken in.  A bit like speed reading it becomes more about finishing the content than the journey the information can teach you.

Have you been on a self-development journey or thinking of where to start? Then do leave a comment as I would live to hear from you.  Also please do pop over to my facebook page.

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Saturday, 15 August 2015

Why the internet can be your best friend or your worst Nightmare....

I love the internet, access to all that information with just the typing of a sentence or two... However, even more so recently, I have really been thinking about Why the internet can be your best friend or your worst nightmare...



Simply put, well meaning "experts" by this of course, I do not mean actual experts just those that reply to articles, questions etc... with well meaning intentions and sounding as if they know the best thing for you but actually they don't.  And peoples willingness to accept this information.  It is a dangerous game and one that can lead to fatality.

So, why does this happen? Well, human nature will always seek people to agree with them, to their thought processes and in many cases with the easiest options.  At best some of these can just equal time wasting, however, in the worst circumstances these can be fatal.  To give an example, someone wrote a health article, it was on a detox juice.... Harmless enough.  But then someone commented mentioning they were addicted to drugs, had been for many years and wanted some advice. The responsible Health Article Owner, suggested they see their Doctor and seek help through rehab or other options, whilst another well meaning person replied with a way to self-detox....

At this point I am hoping I am not the only one that went into a cold sweat reading this... Firstly they have no idea what drugs, what quantity, the length of time taken etc... etc...

I have seen this type of thing time and time again from pregnancy and birth advice right the way through to treating major health issues.

I ask you, would you stand in the street with a megaphone and say excuse me everyone I am a drug addict and would like to know if you can advise me on what to do?  Or I am currently 34 weeks pregnant and am getting really deep stabbing pains in my back, what do you advise?  My guess would be no, and with good reason too because most of us are just not qualified to give an answer.


The internet can also be an amazing resource for alternative therapies, medicines, cures etc... but with these, the majority of us would research and as many sufferers of medical conditions will tell you the research takes a lot of time, effort and thorough examination.  However, the information we have access to now is astounding and I for one am all for it.  I love being able to research, look up, discover, understand at the touch of a button, it is incredible, amazing, powerful and often times empowering.

Precaution is needed...

But I do think that precaution is needed.  The unfortunate part to this article is those that are most desperate and vulnerable are usually the least likely to do their research and more likely to take others advice at face value.

I have had 4 children but I am not a midwife and whilst I may have experienced many different symptoms and had various experiences carrying and giving birth to each child how can I advise as to what someone should do if they are experiencing.... x, y or z.  After all, I do not know their medical history or that of their child, the only advice any of us should give is to seek a medical professional.

Now, I am not talking about taking this to the extreme if someone was to ask if you would recommend the Safari Jumperoo and you had one for your child then of course release your opinion, as with music, cars, clothes, well a plethora of subjects, but when it comes to health you are on dodgy ground if you are not a qualified professional in that field.
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Thursday, 13 August 2015

Can you do for yourself what you do for others?

I am my children's' and my partners biggest cheer leader, biggest supporter and all round motivator.

I can give an example of true hardship and utter determination to make things better for daughter no 1.

I think my eldest daughter (then my only daughter!) must have been about 2 yrs old when we were both in homeless accommodation.  I remember walking into the room with its green plastic covered mattresses, one wardrobe and one bedside table and thinking that I had hit the lowest of the low.  I found used needles in the wardrobe and that just confirmed that sinking feeling I had.

Here I had the most beautiful, funny, smiley little girl that deserved the world and yet this is where we were...

It is a long story as to how we had arrived at that point but the crux of it involved moving away... far away from a physically and mentally abusive soon to be ex-husband.  BUT... just for a moment I would like to step back in time a little because it is very relevant to the blog title.. Can you do for yourself what you do for others?

My husband at the time, was manipulative, abusive but not in the typical way you would expect.  No, this had happened over time, until you suddenly had no part of yourself left, no confidence, no sense of self.  Constantly thinking you had done something wrong and apologetic at the drop of a hat....

The type of person that meant you would get to the front door, put in the key and sigh before you walked through the door wondering which husband you would be met with.... The one in a good mood and so meaning a good night would ensue or the one that was in a bad mood which would result in.... well the levels would vary from bad to pretty darn awful.

The day I came out of hospital and we as proud parents walked into town with our baby in her pram ready to show her to the world and my husband turned around to me... completely out of the blue and said "how do I know she is mine?".... "it's obvious she is yours she came out of you, how do I know she is mine?"  I was speechless, utterly lost for words... mainly because we had hardly ever spent any time apart as I was not allowed to see my friends etc... anymore and if we ever went anywhere we did so together.

Anyway that is just an example.... So, onto my point.  When my daughter was about 5 mths old it was another argument, another situation, but she woke up, we both rushed to her but for very different reasons... My husband got there first... he was shouting the whole time time and by this time she was getting hysterical, I found myself pleading, just pass her to me, I will calm her down, put her back to sleep we can go back downstairs and you can say whatever you need to say to me... I was panicked, in that I need to stay calm kind of way.... even when I think about it today my heart feels as though it will pound out of my chest...

He moved her away from me quickly banging her head on the door while doing so, still shouting, no remorse, nothing.... To this day after that moment I still cannot remember how long it took to get her in my arms or even how I convinced him but I did.  I got her back to sleep went downstairs and it continued... but this time it was like I was not even there.  I felt as though I was floating above my body, looking down and I just thought if I was a fly on the wall and this was happening to a friend what would I say.... I would say get the hell out.... And that is exactly what I did.  BUT it took me to think of it as if it was a friend before I acted, as if it just being about me was not good enough, as if I was not good enough to deserve better.

Back to the homeless accommodation.... This was a big turning point - I went to my step parents for Christmas and my then ex-husband was seeing my daughter over the christmas period but on the phone to me the entire time saying he was going to take her off of me as I could not even provide secure accommodation for her.  Now if this happened now in this time I would equally be strong enough to say and even think hang on a second, if you had any love or concern for your daughter you would financially contribute to supporting her, (which never happened as he saw that as helping "me out") and so we would not be in this situation.

But, it did make me think right... I need to do something drastic otherwise my gorgeous little girl is going to be living with someone who thinks she is a pawn, who does not love her and well, I just could not have that!

I found a new venue in Taunton, I walked in and asked to speak to the manager.  The man behind the bar said he was the manager.  I looked him straight in the eye and said - you need to employ me over the Christmas and New year period.  He chuckled and said "oh do I, and why is that?"  I told him that I would make him more money than anyone else he employed. He told me to come in that evening for a trial... I then worked over Christmas and New year as much as I could. And true to my word I did make him more money, every time I was offered a drink (and that happened a lot!) the money went into the till.  By the end of my time (so New years eve) I was £50 shy of the deposit and fees for a flat!

I would never have dreamt that I could be as bold and as confident as I was that day... But it was no longer about me - it was about my baby, her security and her having a Mum that would do anything to get them out of the situation we were in.

I still look back at that time in awe, of seeing that I had the strength, confidence and determination to overcome my fears, my insecurities etc... in order to get something done... But it still also leaves a burning question in me.... Would I ever go to those depths just for myself?

It's interesting to see, hear and feel the strength we have when we need to help those we love and yet we need to love ourselves just as fiercely, we need to be as determined to help ourselves, improve our lives for us.

So, my question for you is... Can you do for yourself what you do for others?

Can you do for yourself what you do for others?

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Wednesday, 12 August 2015

How to choose a Tarot or Angel Card Reader

I have read Tarot since I was a teenager, Angel cards and Oracle cards came later on in life  and to be honest I felt more connected to them.  However, I have had many discussions with friends and clients/future clients about the validity of readers.

This is a tough one, you have word of mouth, which is great as you normally know and trust the person that has mentioned the recommendation.  But what if you do not have a recommendation? You are then left looking through a plethora of websites (these days so many more readings are done via phone or email rather than face-to-face), reviews and trying to work out if this person or that person is the right one to go with.

This is why I took the Certified Angel card Readers Course by Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine.

It meant that you know I have been tested by some of the best in the industry and so giving you peace of mind.

Certified Angel Card Reader Traci Cornelius

There are a few other tips I have for you when choosing a reader:-

Use your intuition

If you go to a website and it does not "feel" right then move on to the next - this one just is not a match for you, trust what you feel.

Read the reviews

This is so important, what have others fed back?  It is also not about the quantity of reviews, it is about the quality.  Also do not judge reviews by the amount of work you think the reader may have had.  There are many readings I have done and still continue to do for either higher profile clients or those that wish to remain anonymous.

Get in Contact

Still not sure?  Contact the reader or sales team.  If you are looking at larger companies that have a number of readers on their lists you will more than likely have a sales team you can talk too.  If it is a reputable company you should be able to talk to the sales team and give them an overview of what you are looking for.  Based on this they should be able to recommend a few readers that will be a fit for you.  If you are contacting the reader direct then do expect to either email, leave a message and receive a reply within 24/48 hrs there are a plethora of reasons that readers either choose to work for a company as a contractor or use their own website to attract clients.

The upside to using a larger company is that the waiting time is usually minimal, the upside to finding an independent reader is that if you create a bond and really like their style you will often go back to the same reader time and time again.  This can also still happen within a company but once again you may then need to wait until your preferred reader is available.

The first few minutes of your reading

Lastly if you do not feel a connection to your reader within the first few minutes then just say so and end the reading.  If you have a genuine reader they will also say to you I am sorry but I am not feeling the connection.  It happens, we cannot always connect.  This also does not mean you are not "meant" to have a reading it simply means that reader is not a fit for you.  You will then either be credited (usually with larger companies) or refunded your money to leave you free to find another reader.

Tips for getting the most out of your reading

As a little bonus, here are a few tips on how to get the most from your reading:-

Specific Question

Prior to your reading really think about what it is you are seeking.  The reading is always much more successful if you start with a specific question, more often than not you will receive a lot more information but having a starting point really does help the connection between the reader and yourself.  To give an example imagine you at one end of the room and your reader is at the other, now imagine a number of narrow pathways leading from you to the reader, if you have a specific question the reader chooses that path and can walk to you easily, without a question the reader needs to work out which path is the one that leads to you in the best and quickest way.

Yes/No and how much information to give

This is a tricky one but it is much better to reply with Yes/No as to whether the information is resonating with you than to be completely silent throughout the reading for fear of giving anything away.  However, you will also need to ensure you refrain from giving away too much, this really is more to protect you and also help you to know that you have had a valued reading as you did not "feed the reader" as we in the industry call it.  Here is an example, if I was giving a reading and it included mediumship and lets say I was to say I have a gentleman with me here, very tall looks to be in his mid eighties, glasses, he is wearing a brown tweed suit and I am really feeling as though this is your Dad or a father figure..... It is perfectly acceptable to say Yes, or that is my Dad or even no actually that is my Granddad but he was much more like a father to me... but then leave the information there, try not to go on and say I lived with him until I was 16, or yes we lived in Birmingham etc... as then you are not just confirming the information given you are providing information that may have been confirmed later in the reading.

For information regarding a Tarot or Angel card reading let's say I said something like I have King of Fire, which represents leadership, focus, passion and also self-development, I am sensing that this is showing me that you have really been focused lately on what it is you want career wise.  You could say yes, I recently started studying, or yes I have had a career change or No it is not with career.  This helps your reader to know if they are interpreting the cards correctly.

Have fun, relax, enjoy...

Have fun, relax and enjoy your reading, it should be an enjoyable experience for you and the reader.  The more open you can be the more enjoyable the session will be.  It can hinder your experience if you are looking for something too specific, for example if you are waiting for confirmation that your "Uncle Mike" has come through and he says something about cherries... when you are looking for something that specific it can really cloud the rest of the reading as you are so focused on getting that person and that message that you are not validating the information that is coming through.

It's not set in stone...

To finish I just want to explain that a reading whether Tarot, Angel cards, Psychic intuition etc... is there as a snap shot to say if you continue on this path this is where you could be heading.... It is not set in stone. This is your life, your destiny and you always have the choice to change direction.  If you do not like where the reading is taking you then great as you know you need to change something.  If you like where the reading is taking you then great, keep doing what you are doing.

I hope you have found this useful and if you have a reading I hope that it brings you peace and clarity.  If you would like to book a reading with me then visit my Angel and Tarot Card Reading page

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Sunday, 9 August 2015

Lost in in-action....

I have recently been lost in in-action... Well not exactly.  There have been a few life changing decisions needed to be made and this brought everything to a resounding halt.

Some life changing decisions are thrown upon us last minute and have to be made quickly while others can be progressive, such as moving out of your parents, buying your first car, buying your first house etc...  Some decisions effect mainly you whilst others can affect many, but none the less these types of decisions all carry weight.  And by weight I mean a heavy thought process that we all go through.  Some of us talk it through with partners, friends and family, others take more of the loners approach.

Sometimes these changes may not be able to be discussed with others.  There is one thing I know for sure which is also how I had to approach one of my decisions; that getting to know yourself and being connected to your inner guide can be invaluable.

It may require time away from the norm, the hustle and bustle of daily life in order for you to be able to connect, hear and feel but it will be completely worth it.  Why?  Well, simply put when you get advise from others you may agree and feel better about talking it over but you still have to rely on your inner guidance to truly know in every cell of your being that you made the right decision for you.  The last part of that sentence is equally as important.... THE RIGHT DECISION FOR YOU.

You are responsible for your life, your relationship, your home, bringing up your children, etc... etc... and so decisions have to be based on what is best for you and those it impacts.  Sometimes, not always, but sometimes advise from others, as well meaning as it is, projects their beliefs, their values, their morals which may not always match up to your own.

Knowing yourself, connecting to your inner guide means you can move forward with conviction.  If you are struggling for an answer, ask your Angels/Guides/God/Divine whatever term you use for help in finding clarity.

And if like me you have to go "missing in in-action" which basically means stepping out of the norm in order to achieve that then do it.  Our house is always busy and rarely quiet.... After all I have four children three of which are toddlers (well two toddlers and one still classed as a baby)... Getting time to reflect is not always an easy task, so for me I have to pick moments... like when they are all asleep and the house chores have been completed (or nearly completed... in our house it is perpetual!).  This means coming to a final decision can take days, even weeks.  It may have to be the same for you, taking a long quiet walk may give you the opportunity to reflect, connect and hear, feel what your inner guidance is telling you.
Before I reconnected issues like the ones I have recently needed to face would have led me through a seemingly never ending spiral of indecision, of wondering which direction, path or decision to make, constantly doubting if I had it in me to make the right choice and all because I have made decisions in the past that have not worked out so well....

But so what? I am here, I am alive, nothing catastrophic happened and who is to say that the seemingly wrong decision was not indeed the right decision to teach me the lesson that needed to be learnt to put me on the right path?  Bit too deep?  Well, maybe but none-the-less true.

It seems in today's society we have to strive for perfection in every decision on every step. In my opinion perfection is non existent because it is always changing, however, let's say for the sake of making a point that we strive for perfection.  We can only achieve perfection through imperfection.  Making mistakes, learning, tweaking, evolving is all what leads us to understanding what it is we truly want, desire, it is also the way to find out what life is truly like, what life is truly about.....

If you are currently in the midst of making some life changing decisions I wish you peace and clarity and urge you to take time to connect to your inner guide.

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Thursday, 30 July 2015

Urghhhhh Scheduling.... The Work at home, stay at Home parent dilemma

I have a wonderful family.  It consists of myself, Mark, four girls aged 17, 3, 2 and 10 mths, a puppy aged 4.5 mths, a rabbit, two mice and some fish.

So, this means our house is well pretty busy.  Mark works full time but also has practically what I would also call full time hobbies, meaning he is often away weekends, evenings and even when home often packing for said weekends.

My 17 yr old has just brought her first car and so is rightly off with friends discovering the world, herself and also more than likely learning why I have said for many years do not do x, y and z!

With all this in mind you would think I would have the schedule down, I would be super organised and everyday would be a breeze... except... I don't.  I HATE schedules, I mean really hate them, I avoid them like the plague.  I have moments when I slip and say oooh that is it I am going to do..... and then that lasts about 3 days and then bam I am back to well just a non scheduled environment.

Why? Oh my, this is one question I have been asking myself for years, I think I have finally got some semblance of an answer.  A schedule almost always feels as though it is a dictation, a dictation of my time and what I SHOULD do, a reminder of what I HAVE to do and wow that feeling just grates me to the bone.  It has a huge sense of a lack of freedom and yet....  Having a schedule actually gives you more freedom.

So basically this is one area I have to psychologically work on myself and work on it I am and will continue too (it is going to be a work in progress!).

There is another reason why I dislike scheduling and that is the initial process of the schedule.  I watched a really good video from my new favourite resource and person (in a very non storkerish type of way!) Niamh Arthur, I like her just because she explains things in a very appealing easy to understand, straight forward way and well she is just nice!

In this video Niamh suggests breaking down tasks into daily tasks and weekly tasks etc... which is a very good idea, I took this one step further to also think about monthly tasks but just to stay on track I will do daily and weekly.  Firstly I have to explain that I still have a need to colour co-ordinate even when writing out in rough... I know, I can't help it I like to be able to see things and make them look pretty - it's the crafter in me ;-)

Here was my rough list:-

Already I am looking at it and feeling overwhelmed!  If I have to think about all the things I do in a day, in a week it just seems exhausting and the list still does not include bath time, the girls bed time or even me getting showered and dressed which is also why I can still be in my pj's at sometimes 10 am waiting for a time when I can safely have 10 minutes to get in the shower and get dressed.  But this is the same reason I NEED a schedule because without it the girls do not have enough structure, ok I do not have enough structure.

We have some, of course we do, it is impossible not too but because my 3 and 2 yr old only have nursery one day a week there is no particular set routine.  The end result is everything gets done.... eventually usually when I have seriously had enough and then have a mass clear out and spring clean only to then turn around 10 minutes later to find that my beautifully clean, tidy house looks as though I had never cleaned or tidied at all!  Like the kitchen floor which I clean once, sometimes twice a day... I need to we have a dog.  It is clean and beautiful one second, Roo comes in from the garden and urghhh yep back to looking as though I had never cleaned it in the first place.

This is where I also think we have the constant heart sinking feeling as parents, we spend time cleaning and tidying but it is constant, not just constant in the of course the house needs to be cleaned and tidied on a regular basis but constant in that every 10 minutes kind of way!  I think I need to put the play pen up, put the children in, clean the house and then immediately leave to go out.  This would mean that just for once I can walk back into the house and ahhhhh it's all done.  I just need that feeling for a second or two.

This video sums up my house perfectly, except with three "little helpers!"

My Summary for this topic is I have to swallow my "urghhhh, I really do not want to do this" and create a schedule that can work for us that has enough flexibility in it that I am not feeling like a Drill Sergent!
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Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Ask and you will be answered... even via facebook! Introducing Niamh Arthur

I just love it when you ask and you are answered and quickly!  I asked the other night for guidance and resources to information or people that could help me to move onto the next level, to push forward on my journey.

Well it was only given to me the very next morning!  Sometimes information, resources, connections can come out of places that you would never consider.  Sometimes it maybe from resources that you see everyday but... this times somethings just pops out for you and this was such a time.

On facebook I am a follower of Women Inspiring Women, it is a fabulous resource and one that I do not visit as often as I should.  Anyhow, on my feed popped up a message saying that Niamh Arthur had posted to the page, I cannot explain why but I was drawn to it immediately and after reading her post I sent her a message and she provided a link to her AWE inspiring video... I was instantly drawn to her and felt as though she was trying to deliver a similar message to me however she is doing it from a business angle where as mine is from a spiritual angle but the crux of it is still all about listening to your inner guide, your gut... she also has a much more eloquent way of putting it than I do!

But I urge you to go and check her out because.... well because.... she rocks and she makes sense...

Her website is aptly named Your Authentic Living and you can get access to her free videos and fab information.

She also has a youtube channel and her introductory video which I have added here too really does give a great introduction regarding what she is all about.

I would love to know if you connect with Niamh and hope that you find her information as informative and helpful as I do.

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Thursday, 23 July 2015

Spiritual Journey Continues....

So, I know it has been a little while since I gave an update on my Spiritual Journey.  I have been continuing with the open circle and developing my mediumship skills.

And mediumship is not just limited to open circle... No, I often get visits from those that have passed for those who are open to messages when I give my Angel & Tarot card readings.  It has been a real pleasure and honour to help clients get the evidence they need to know that there loved ones are still around them and not only that but have been watching over them, I often get evidence of what people have recently been doing and this is their way of showing you that they have been around.  It is truly beautiful.

My spiritual meditations have also been informative and every time I am getting a clearer and clearer message as to my destined path.  I have been given gifts by my guides and leaders and shown symbols amongst other messages.  Now my path is taking me to a stage of developing much further and I have to say I am excited as to where that will lead.

Sometimes it can be hard to tell when you are getting Divine messages, they could be so easily missed, I know I must have missed one after a particularly stern word from my Indian Chief after he said I have a lot to do and need to develop... on the what I should develop and how is the message I had obviously missed!  However, I received some great advice from Kevin who said "ask them to show you three times".  This fab piece of advice means that a) you do not need to worry about something being "your imagination" and b) missing the information.  And it is something I have adopted.

What are your ways of confirming messages?  Do you ask for something similar, I would love to know so do leave a comment.

For those of you who are daily readers of this blog you will also know that this week is gratitude week and I am truly grateful for the path that has been laid out before me.  I am massively grateful that I booked that reading and that it has helped me be in touch with my Spirits, Guides and Guardian Angels.  This last few months have been life changing.  The sort of life changing where you know you will never look at the world in quite the same way again.  I already knew and saw it as beautiful and wondrous and now I have that on a whole new level, levels of levels!

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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Wednesday, 22 July 2015

Rewire your Brain

Just five minutes daily is all it takes to rewire your brain and unleash everything great in your life – and it starts with Gratitude! By practicing awareness of the positive things in life, we fight off the brain’s natural tendency to scan for and spot the negatives. As a result, we train our brains to be more positive and thus happier.  This is according to which has been featured on

This is another great resource for you and a continuation on from our Gratitude Week here is more from


When you write about a happy event, your brain relives that good feeling. And when you focus repeatedly on something that feels good, your brain rewires itself to do that more effortlessly in the future.


It takes about three weeks to start a new habit. When a behaviour is repeated enough, the synaptic pathways in our brains tied to that behaviour get used to being accessed. As a result, it becomes easier for impulses to travel along those pathways, and the behaviour seems “natural.”  Recording your gratitude for 21 days straight forms a new habit.


A daily gratitude journal can increase your long-term well-being by more than 10 percent.That’s the same impact as doubling your income!

Gratitude makes us nicer, more trusting, more social, and more appreciative. As a result, it helps us make more friends, deepen our existing relationships, and improve our marriage.

Daily gratitude improves sleep, increases your energy levels, reduces stress, and can decrease blood pressure. There is even reason to believe gratitude can extend your lifespan by a few months or even years.

Gratitude helps you network, increases your decision making capabilities, increases your productivity, and helps you get mentors and proteges.

Gratitude reduces envious feelings, creates happier memories, and helps us bounce back from stress.

Gratitude “recruits” other positive emotions and forgiveness comes easier. Also,  negative emotions—like anger, jealousy, greed, and fear—fade. All this shows in your appearance.

To check out more information about the Gratitude app visit

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x

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Tuesday, 21 July 2015

A Serving of Gratitude may Save the Day

Now whilst this article may bring about Thanksgiving and yes we are in July the content is none the less important for our Gratitude week and has dome very poignant points and information.  This was an article in the New York Times:-

The most psychologically correct holiday of the year is upon us.

Thanksgiving may be the holiday from hell for nutritionists, and it produces plenty of war stories for psychiatrists dealing with drunken family meltdowns. But it has recently become the favourite feast of psychologists studying the consequences of giving thanks. Cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, less anxiety and depression, higher long-term satisfaction with life and kinder behaviour toward others, including romantic partners. A new study shows that feeling grateful makes people less likely to turn aggressive when provoked, which helps explain why so many brothers-in-law survive Thanksgiving without serious injury.

But what if you’re not the grateful sort? I sought guidance from the psychologists who have made gratitude a hot research topic. Here’s their advice for getting into the holiday spirit — or at least getting through dinner Thursday:

Start with “gratitude lite.”

That’s the term used by Robert A. Emmons, of the University of California, Davis, for the technique used in hispioneering experiments he conducted along with Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami. They instructed people to keep a journal listing five things for which they felt grateful, like a friend’s generosity, something they’d learned, a sunset they’d enjoyed.

The gratitude journal was brief — just one sentence for each of the five things — and done only once a week, but after two months there were significant effects. Compared with a control group, the people keeping the gratitude journal were more optimistic and felt happier. They reported fewer physical problems and spent more time working out. 

Further benefits were observed in a study of polio survivors and other people with neuromuscular problems. The ones who kept a gratitude journal reported feeling happier and more optimistic than those in a control group, and these reports were corroborated by observations from their spouses. These grateful people also fell asleep more quickly at night, slept longer and woke up feeling more refreshed.

“If you want to sleep more soundly, count blessings, not sheep,” Dr. Emmons advises in “Thanks!” his book on gratitude research.

Don’t confuse gratitude with indebtedness. Sure, you may feel obliged to return a favour, but that’s not gratitude, at least not the way psychologists define it. Indebtedness is more of a negative feeling and doesn’t yield the same benefits as gratitude, which inclines you to be nice to anyone, not just a benefactor.

In an experiment at Northeastern University, Monica Bartlett and David DeSteno sabotaged each participant’s computer and arranged for another student to fix it. Afterward, the students who had been helped were likelier to volunteer to help someone else — a complete stranger — with an unrelated task. Gratitude promoted good karma. And if it works with strangers ....

Try it on your family. No matter how dysfunctional your family, gratitude can still work, says Sonja Lyubomirsky of the University of California, Riverside.

“Do one small and unobtrusive thoughtful or generous thing for each member of your family on Thanksgiving,” she advises. “Say thank you for every thoughtful or kind gesture. Express your admiration for someone’s skills or talents — wielding that kitchen knife so masterfully, for example. And truly listen, even when your grandfather is boring you again with the same World War II story.”

Don’t counterattack. If you’re bracing for insults on Thursday, consider a recent experiment at the University of Kentucky. After turning in a piece of writing, some students received praise for it while others got a scathing evaluation: “This is one of the worst essays I’ve ever read!”

Then each student played a computer game against the person who’d done the evaluation. The winner of the game could administer a blast of white noise to the loser. Not surprisingly, the insulted essayists retaliated against their critics by subjecting them to especially loud blasts — much louder than the noise administered by the students who’d got positive evaluations.

But there was an exception to this trend among a subgroup of the students: 
the ones who had been instructed to write essays about things for which they were grateful. After that exercise in counting their blessings, they weren’t bothered by the nasty criticism — or at least they didn’t feel compelled to amp up the noise against their critics.

“Gratitude is more than just feeling good,” says Nathan DeWall, who led the study at Kentucky. “It helps people become less aggressive by enhancing their empathy. “It’s an equal-opportunity emotion. Anyone can experience it and benefit from it, even the most crotchety uncle at the Thanksgiving dinner table.”

Try a gratitude visit. This exercise, recommended by Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania, begins with writing a 300-word letter to someone who changed your life for the better. Be specific about what the person did and how it affected you. Deliver it in person, preferably without telling the person in advance what the visit is about. When you get there, read the whole thing slowly to your benefactor. “You will be happier and less depressed one month from now,” Dr. Seligman guarantees in his book “Flourish.”

Contemplate a higher power. Religious individuals don’t necessarily act with more gratitude in a specific situation, but thinking about religion can cause people to feel and act more gratefully, as demonstrated in experiments by Jo-Ann Tsang and colleagues at Baylor University. Other research shows that praying can increase gratitude.

Go for deep gratitude. Once you’ve learned to count your blessings, Dr. Emmons says, you can think bigger.
“As a culture, we have lost a deep sense of gratefulness about the freedoms we enjoy, a lack of gratitude toward those who lost their lives in the fight for freedom, a lack of gratitude for all the material advantages we have,” he says. “The focus of Thanksgiving should be a reflection of how our lives have been made so much more comfortable by the sacrifices of those who have come before us.”

And if that seems too daunting, you can least tell yourself —
Hey, it could always be worse. When your relatives force you to look at photos on their phones, be thankful they no longer have access to a slide projector. When your aunt expounds on politics, rejoice inwardly that she does not hold elected office. Instead of focusing on the dry, tasteless turkey on your plate, be grateful the six-hour roasting process killed any toxic bacteria.
Is that too much of a stretch? When all else fails, remember the Monty Python mantra of the Black Plague victim: “I’m not dead.” It’s all a matter of perspective.

A version of this article appears in print on November 22, 2011, on page D1 of the New York edition with the headline: A Serving of Gratitude May Save the Day

Tomorrow's post brings you an app where you can have your own Gratitude Journal 

Love Life and Laughter

Traci x
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